The Art of Being a Lady: Personality Test


The other day I was preparing for a job interview, which, for me, consists of spending hours and hours poring over possible interview questions and crafting my ever-so-eloquent responses to each – responses that, inevitably, flew right out of the window the second I walked into the interview. {For the record, I actually got the job.}

But I digress.

Preparing for an interview requires a good amount of self reflection, which got me thinking about my personality and why I am the way I am {and more importantly, why I had just spent the first warm day of spring cooped up inside, going over hypothetical scenarios in my head.} In my typical pursuit of constant self-improvement, I decided to embark on a soul-searching adventure to find myself and to resolve this mystery once and for all. {Doesn't that sound fun?!}

The mission behind FOXY OXIE SUPERNOVA and the entire Art of Being a Lady series is all about becoming the woman you've always wanted to be, so it's safe to say that the subject of personality development is an important one around here. However, contrary to what the post title may have lead you to believe, I will not be delving out advice on developing your personality. {Mainly because as much as I like to pretend otherwise, I am not a psychologist.} What I will be doing is far more interesting, and that is talking about myself {I'm kidding, I'm kidding. Please don't throw things at me.}

Unlike the life-altering "What Kind of {Fill in the Blank} Are You?" quizzes, a personality test is actually valuable {and potentially life altering} to a functioning member of society, which I'm taking the liberty of assuming you are. Once you're aware of the characteristics you possess, you can A) start working on getting rid of those characteristics, B) start harnessing those characteristics to your advantage or C) none of the above {in other words continue living your oblivious, clueless, ignorant, purposeless life.}

OK, I may have taken it a bit too far with the purposeless life, but as someone wise once said, "You can't correct what you aren't willing to confront."

As luck would have it, less than one percent of the population has my personality type {this tiny fact sure puts certain things into perspective!} According to the Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator, my personality type is INFJ, the most rare of all types. {Trust me, I took the stupid thing four times.} If you're interested in finding out more about the INFJ personality type, then by all means continue reading. Otherwise, I recommend you take the personality test yourself and then hop on back, because it's about to get real personal with this complex, three-part question: What's your take on personality tests – do you love 'em, hate 'em, couldn't care less about 'em? What personality type are you? {Take the personality test here.} What parts of your personality do you want to change?



INFJs are distinguished by their complexity of character and the unusual range and depth of their talents. INFJs place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their world. INFJs tend to have a very strong intuition, which allows them to accurately judge events, situations and other people. They are usually right, and they usually know it. INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. 

INFJs are perfectionists who doubt that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs believe in constant growth and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is morally right. INFJs have very high expectations of themselves.

INFJs are masters of written communication, with a distinctively smooth and warm language. In addition, the sensitivity of INFJs allows them to connect to others quite easily. Their easy and pleasant communication can often mislead bystanders, who might think that the INFJ is actually a very sociable person. 

INFJs should be careful to avoid “overheating” as their zeal and determination can sometimes get out of hand. As reserved individuals, INFJs need to have some alone time every once in a while or otherwise their internal energy reserves will get depleted really quickly. If this happens, the INFJ may surprise everybody around them by withdrawing from all their activities for a while – and since other people usually see INFJs as always friendly and sociable, this can leave them both surprised and concerned.


INFJs are natural leaders, even though they do not seek nor worship positions of authority, unlike certain other personality types. People with this personality type are very insightful and creative – they tend to be excellent architects, musicians, artists, photographers, designers, etc. Regardless of the career path, INFJs always need to feel that their contribution is meaningful. They need something more than just money or recognition. People with this personality type feel happiest when they believe that their career is very much in line with their personal values and principles. 


INFJ friends are likely to be very insightful, warm and caring. It will not be easy to get to know them well as INFJ personalities hide their true thoughts deep within their minds – however, if their friends are determined enough to work on the friendship, its strength and depth will be remarkable. This personality type is very enigmatic and difficult to decipher yet able to see through other people’s masks very easily. Authenticity and sincerity are extremely important if you want to become friends with an INFJ. INFJs are not really interested in friendships which mostly revolve around practical, daily matters or physical activities.

INFJs should remember that they have an extremely rare personality type and not get frustrated if their friends do not share 100% of their principles or goals. INFJ personalities seek friends that they can trust, and who are both willing and able to understand their passions and ideas. Not many people can cope with the depth and richness of the INFJ’s imagination, and even fewer can support the INFJ in the way that they need. INFJs tend to be very loyal and supportive friends and are sought out by many other personality types for their wisdom. As INFJs are generally eloquent and persuasive, they tend to be quite popular and influential. The INFJs themselves are often quite bemused by this, as they are very private individuals who do not really need nor enjoy the attention. It is likely that the INFJ will only have a few true friends, but those friends will value the INFJ’s companionship very highly. INFJ relationships often reach the level of depth that most people could only dream of.

INFJs possess the ability to see behind the obvious, to clearly understand the idea behind the process. They are extraordinarily insightful and able to sense other people’s thoughts, desires and emotions very easily. It is hard to manipulate an INFJ as they evaluate the motives of other people very carefully. Nevertheless, the INFJs are friendly and full of compassion, even though they can be very picky when it comes to choosing friends or dating partners. A relationship with an INFJ is a connection that simply cannot be described in everyday terms. 


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  1. I just found it funny how most of the comments got the same personality result. I wonder if we all gravitated to the same things?

  2. Hello ! I am Clarence, an INFJ also. I have been reading your series because I want to be more feminine. I came across this which is very relatable. My question then is “How can INFJs act more feminine?”
    We are known to be social but has the tendency to withdraw when energy rubs out, some also at first label us as rigid , so how do we act more feminine in relationship to our personality? I will be lookinh for your response or blog ☺️

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  4. Aww, you are too sweet! I’m thrilled you found me and can’t wait to have you join in on future discussions! By the way – did you see the latest post on adding personality to your home? It’s all about INFJs – would love to hear your thoughts! XOXO, Oksana

    • Hi Tamara! So what do you think – does the description fit? Did you have an “Aha!” moment when you found out your personality type? I’d love to hear your thoughts!!

      On a slightly different topic, I’m curious to know how you found my blog!

      XOXO, Oksana

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  7. Don’t have a clue who I am, but I do know that outfit is amazing and so in love wit those sandals!

  8. Congratulations on the job offer! That’s so great!

    I’m an INFJ too! I’m always shocked when I find out that an individual is because I read that it’s so rare. I found out in 2007 and thought the portrait of the personality type was like reading a description written about me! I love such tests because I’m very interested in what motivates people, I always desire to improve myself and values can drive our lives more than they do other types. I also enjoy reading anything about my type. I bought the book that featured the test I took as well as so much analysis, and I might reference my portrait if I have to write about myself, say, in a cover letter on a resume or on an online dating profile. I have a INFJ blog on my blog roll, The INFJ Cafe, she’s been doing a series on how an INFJ relates to the other types for awhile now. Find it at

    I struggle with perfectionism. Sometimes it stops me from doing something because I am unable to do it perfectly or can’t see its completion as quickly as I’d like. We do prefer things finished, don’t we? In fact, I’ve poured my heart out on my blog before ( I can let go and have some messy fun. I can at least try.

    I *love* your top!

    • Hi Michelle! Thank you so much for your support! I’m so ready to begin this new chapter in our lives!

      I must say that I simply knew from the first comment you ever posted on FOS that we would get along! :)

      You’re right about the type description; it’s as if someone crawled into my head, untangled and put down into words all of the complexity and juxtaposition I live with every day. I too struggle with perfectionism; I’m an overachiever to the max. I also struggle with the frustration that not everyone is as pro-self-improvement as I am. I tend to hold myself, my friends, my husband and family to extremely high standards and find that very few people satisfy my level of need for an emotional connection.

      Looking forward to reading your post on INFJs! XOXO

      • I don’t think “overachiever” is the best word to describe me. Things just have to be the way I personally planned them out in my head. I want everything to be beautiful.

        I think I accept others in all but one, a major one, my boss. We’re a two-person office and our work ethics differ. It is very frustrating for me the 32 hours a week we work together. I tend to have very high standards for material possessions and activities though.

        • I think “perfectionist” and “overachiever” go hand in hand: if your standards are far above average, and you can never settle for mediocrity then you are an overachiever. That’s why the type description warns of “overheating” – because our zeal and determination can get out of hand. Now, the motives are what differentiates us from other perfectionists or overachievers of a different personality type. The INFJ’s biggest motivation is the need for self-improvement.

          • That’s true… I never settle. I do tend to downplay my perfectionism. …or simply not comment on the condition of something, attempting to seem ….mysterious or that it is effortless.

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